What Nobody Tells You About Moving to New Zealand
Most people who dream of moving to New Zealand talk about it in percentages. How sure am I? How ready am I? How scared am I?
It’s not a yes-or-no question. It’s a sliding scale—and it changes from day to day.
In this episode, we asked our private Slack community a simple question: How certain are you about moving to New Zealand? The responses were honest, emotional, and sometimes surprising.
You’ll hear from Dan, a project manager from the UK who’s in the final weeks of his move. Sandra, a corporate lawyer from Germany, is terrified and excited in equal measure. And Ryan, an American who’s been living in New Zealand for nine years and has never looked back.
If you’re wondering is New Zealand a nice place to live, these real voices will give you an honest answer—not a sales pitch.
So grab a cuppa or a glass of wine, settle in, and let’s hear from people who are walking the same path as you.
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What You’ll Learn about Moving to New Zealand
This episode is a snapshot of three very different journeys.
Dan is 95% excited and 5% exhausted. Sandra is 100% certain but still scared. Ryan was 100% sure it was the right thing—but only 70% sure it was forever.
Their stories prove that there’s no “right” percentage. There’s only your percentage. And whatever it is, you’re not alone.
For those who haven’t yet started their journey, our How to Relocate to New Zealand guide covers the first steps. But this episode is about the emotional side—the uncertainty, the fear, and the excitement.
Quick Facts About This NZ Ahead Episode
| Question | Answer |
|---|---|
| Who are the guests? | Dan (UK), Sandra (Germany), Ryan (USA) |
| Where are they in their journey? | Dan & Sandra: Moving September 2026 / Ryan: In NZ 9 years |
| What’s the theme? | How certain people are about moving to NZ |
| What makes this episode unique? | Real voices from real community members |
How Sure Are You About Moving to New Zealand?
If I could take a wild guess about who listens to this NZ Ahead podcast, I would say about 80% of the people who listen are planning on moving to New Zealand, or they dream of moving to New Zealand. Would you say that’s fair?
Brian: Yes. I thought you were going to come up with some logistical thing around the world for a minute, then, Liz, of where these people. You said 80%, and I’m like, “You think I’ve done my homework?”
Liz: No, I’m just saying most people who listen to this podcast are moving to New Zealand. And today we have got such a treat for you because we sat down the other day. We’d just done a live Zoom call with our community members from the private NZ Ahead Slack community.
Brian: We put a post out onto our Slack community and we said, “How sure are you about moving to New Zealand? Could you give us like a percentage? Could you tell us where you are in your moving to New Zealand journey?”
Liz: And they did. They sent a bunch of messages back and today we’re going to share them with you.
Brian’s Story: 65% Sure
Brian: Before we jump into that, because we don’t often get you and me on the NZ Ahead podcast, do we? So, Liz, what was your percentage when you were coming over?
Liz: Do you know what, Bry? I reckon we should save that answer because we’re going to do a part one and a part two of this.
Brian: All right, then. Do you want to do that?
Liz: Why don’t we do that?
B: You have to cast your mind back a long way now, don’t you? Yeah, as we did it extremely quickly. I’m not going to tell you what I was because I’m going to give away the stuff if I start saying we did it quickly.
L: I was just like I’m gonna say I was 65% sure about moving to New Zealand. And the reason I wasn’t 100% which you’re going to listen to these people and we’re going to talk about them is if I’m honest, I was dreading leaving my mom.
B: Even though she’d said to me, “I’m going to come over and I’m going to see you and I’ll probably live there for six months of the year,” deep down I thought, “Yeah, but what if you don’t and I’m going to leave you.”
So that played a massive part. And also, you’d never been. I was hoping I was in fact I was dreading that you were going to get over there and go, “What’s this? I don’t like it.”
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Dan (Moving to NZ from the UK) Story:
95% Excited, 5% Exhausted
Liz: The first person we’re going to listen to is a guy called Dan. Dan is married to Jamaima and they’ve got a beautiful little girl called Beatrix.
Dan (Audio): Hi, Liz. Hi, Brian. It’s Dan from Dan, Jamaima and Beatrix. We’re currently in the UK, very close to getting to the point where we can actually head over to the beautiful island of New Zealand. We’re currently at the real axis of our journey.
We’re awaiting completion of our house sale. Waiting for a letter from a doctor to reassure the clinician when going for our medicals on a couple of things. We’re moving into a temporary rental between house sale and moving over.
Finding a home for our cats is also one of the key things. With a number of other things going on—our daughter’s birthday party in just over a week, trying to wrap up some key elements and projects at work, meeting as many friends and family as possible before we run out of time, just to name a few.
It feels like a lot of what-ifs and should-happens which are all just out of reach and mostly out of our control. We’re just riding the wave and trying to keep optimistic. We’re working our way through it steadily.
Had a massive win with securing a job offer which starts November the 2nd. So, we’re trying to get all this done in time, and after a year of the process, it doesn’t feel like we got much time left.
At the moment, we’re collectively about 10% nervous that something can still go wrong. 95% energized to put in the work to get there, cuz the other 5%’s cuz we’re all exhausted from it all so far. About a thousand percent excited to be there.
We can’t do much more at this stage. So, we’re just hoping the stars align. We’ve done absolutely everything that we can.
Brian: I think the 5% that you’re exhausted because you just put so much into it that you start to lose track of what it is you’re actually doing and why it is you’re going.
Liz: And it’s great that people realise there is a percentage of how determined or how excited they are to do it. But overall, I’m looking at that around about a 95 centre, which is pretty high. That’s great and that keeps you going, keeps you motivated.
Brian: Dan is actually a senior project manager, and it really shows. Every time we speak to them, it’s usually Dan that turns up, and he always says, “Okay, we’ve got this done, we’ve got that done, I’m gonna be doing that next time I speak to you.”
Liz: He’s always a proper project manager; he’s always had things lined up. And I just think it’s worth mentioning that he probably doesn’t even realise he’s doing that. But Dan, you’re really organised, mate. You really are.
Brian: You’ve got to keep life normal for them right up until the last minute. You know, they don’t understand that we’re not having a birthday party this year because we’re moving to New Zealand. You’ve got to keep it rolling normally.
For those navigating the logistics of a move, our new-zealand-work-visas guide can help with the practical side of securing employment.
If you’re coming from the US, our moving-from-united-states-to-new-zealand guide covers the visa process in detail.
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Sandra (moving to NZ from Germany) 100% Certain, But Still Scared
Liz: The next person we’re going to go to is Sandra. Sandra is a corporate lawyer. She’s coming over with her partner Alex, and they are from Hamburg in Germany.
Sandra (Audio): My name is Sandra and I currently live in Germany. My husband Alex and I are moving to New Zealand at the end of September.
And with our flights booked for end of September and our departure date coming closer and closer, we are growing more excited by the day. But we also feel really scared some days too.
For example, when I handed in our termination notice for our apartment here in Germany, in that moment, the scare percentage took another significant leap.
And after nearly 10 years of dreaming and one failed attempt in 2020 due to the COVID border closure, I’m really happy that we are finally making this move.
However, as with living in any other country, living in New Zealand will come with its own challenges. And with all the excitement, I think it’s really important to be realistic and not to expect New Zealand to be the country where everything is just perfect and your life automatically falls into place.
I think there’s a lot of work ahead for us. Specifically, we are especially scared in terms of job opportunities, the cost of living, and being so far away from family and friends.
But as I said, this has been a dream in the making and we are ready to take that leap. On that part, I am 100% certain. Great things have to feel scary, right?
Liz: Isn’t she lovely?
Brian: Oh, nearly crying. It’s yeah, she is lovely.
Liz: Thank you for being so honest and realistic about the fact that New Zealand isn’t going to just wash away all your problems and make everything perfect. And she was the only one who actually said that.
Brian: It’s not the land of milk and honey. You’re not going to get over here and everything, and a bad marriage is not going to suddenly turn fantastic.
Liz: Exactly. If you’re on the brink of divorce and you think moving to New Zealand is going to save your marriage, it probably won’t. Because it puts you under so much pressure.
Brian: When she said, “Given notice for the termination of the apartment,” I just thought, “Ah, it hurts.” It does because it’s just that—you’re closing the door behind you.
Liz: And it’s like you’re moving on and opening another one that you don’t know what’s in there.
For those with concerns about the downside-of-moving-to-new-zealand , Sandra’s honesty is refreshing. It’s not all perfect, but it’s worth it.
If you’re coming from France, our moving-from-france-to-new-zealand guide offers similar insights for European migrants.
Ryan (moved to New Zealand from USA) 100% Sure, 70% Long-Term
Liz: Our last guest, if you’re a longtime listener of this show, you will know that he has been on our podcast. I think we’ve had Ryan on three times. Ryan Beavens.
And we’ve also had his wife on, Joe, who is a teacher. Ryan has been living in New Zealand for nine years. He’s from the United States.
Ryan (Audio): When asked what percentage I was in my certainty of moving to New Zealand, I’d say for me it was all about which day you asked and what was going on that day. But overall the feeling was that I was 100% sure it was the right thing to do. But only about 70% probably that it was long-term.
Mostly, we just looked at it as an adventure that, at worst, would just cost us money. Even that it would be an adventure that not everybody said they could do. It was hard and scary and exciting.
Even with everything being a bit sketchy the last couple of years with the economy and all that fun stuff, I’d say it’s the best decision outside of marrying my wife that I’ve made. My family took a bit of time to adjust, but now I can tell you my kids would not have it any other way.
Liz: Wow. Said it so well. So true.
Brian: And I just like the way that he pulled it back round to his wife, covering all bases. Well done, mate.
Liz: He is one of the original members of our community. The first 15 members that we had, Ryan was in there. He works in tech. And that guy has never stopped being there for people in the community. He’s always answering, always hearting messages, always showing up.
Brian: I just want to say—it doesn’t have to be forever. You can go back. Just look at it as an adventure, an expensive adventure. Like Ryan said, it’s going to cost you a lot of money, but so what?
What would you rather be 85 years old and sitting at your kitchen table going, “Do you know what? We went, we had a great time, we stayed for a year and then it wasn’t for us and we came back.”
Wouldn’t you rather that than “We never gave it a go because we were a bit scared”?
Liz: Yes. No one’s going to put you up against a wall and shoot you. You can always come home.
This is a powerful moving-to-new-zealand-reminder —it doesn’t have to be forever. It can just be an adventure.
For stories of Americans who have made the leap, our usa-marine-moves-to-new-zealand and americans-living-in-new-zealand guides are worth reading.
Check out Ryan’s video that we made together 5 YEARS AGO!! (Gulp!)
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Why Join our Private NZ Ahead Slack Community?
Liz: To all our community members, not just the ones who have joined in for this series that we’re doing. To all of you, just thank you for being there for each other.
You very kindly will say to me and Brian, “Thank you for creating this community and thank you for doing this.” No, it’s actually we’ve just created the space. It’s actually you that make that community.
Your willingness to give, your willingness to share, to be open, to say “I’m scared stiff,” to say “I’m worried that I’m not going to get a job,” to say “I’m here and I don’t really like it”—all of the things that you say on that community are gold for other people who are doing the same as you.
Brian: And it’s absolutely fantastic. It blows us away each time we come off that live Zoom.
Liz: Don’t forget, if you want to join the community and be in this group of terrific, wonderful adventurers like you, then you can take our five-day video guide, and on day five, we’ll let you know about how you can get into the community.
Key Takeaways from This Episode
| Person | Certainty % | Key Insight |
|---|---|---|
| Dan (UK) | 95% excited, 5% exhausted | The admin of moving is exhausting, but excitement wins |
| Sandra (Germany) | 100% certain, still scared | It’s okay to be scared—great things feel scary |
| Ryan (USA) | 100% right thing, 70% long-term | It doesn’t have to be forever—it can be an adventure |
| Brian | 65% | Leaving family was the hardest part |
Frequently Asked Questions About Moving to New Zealand
Q: How sure do I need to be before moving to New Zealand?
A: There’s no magic number. People in this episode ranged from 65% to 100%. The key is being honest with yourself about your fears and excitement.
Q: Is it okay to be scared?
A: Absolutely. Sandra said it best: “Great things have to feel scary.” Everyone in this episode admitted to fear.
Q: What if it doesn’t work out?
A: Ryan’s perspective is perfect—it doesn’t have to be forever. You can always go back.
Q: How do I stay motivated through the process?
A: Dan’s approach—focus on the 95% excited, acknowledge the 5% exhausted, and keep pushing forward.
Q: Does moving to New Zealand fix all your problems?
A: No. Sandra was honest about this—it won’t wash away your problems. But it can give you a fresh start and a better lifestyle.
Ready to Join the Journey?
If you’re planning a move to New Zealand, you don’t have to do it alone.
Your next steps:
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Head over to nzahead.com/free for our free 5-day video guide on life in New Zealand.
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Join our private NZ Ahead community on Slack for support from people on the same journey.
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Explore our guides on new-zealand-work-visas and moving-from-united-states-to-new-zealand .
And if you’re still deciding where to settle, our guide on new-zealand-south-island-or-north-island can help you choose.
If you’re considering a move with a partner, our new-zealand-partner-visa guide explains how to include your family.
As Ryan said, it’s the best decision outside of marrying his wife. And as Brian said, you can always go back. But you’ll never know unless you try.
Kia kaha. Stay strong.
Liz and Brian x
